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उधेड़बुन -१: दीये और दीपावली
उधेड़बुन -१: दीये और दीपावली
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Perception: A fragile thing (non-material) which I tend to ignore
Most of the time, when I wonder about most fragile thing around me, I end up with a different answer. If I find any fragile item around me, I will try taking extra care for them. For example, if I am handling electric bulbs, I will take extra care so that it doesn’t fall on the hard floor and breaks. If I am handling Chinese clay pots, I will be extra careful as I consider them as fragile items. If I start thinking of a list of items which are considered to be fragile, my list keeps growing without any end in horizon. Sometimes I consider my life itself is a fragile thing as I am not sure about the next moment itself. These are all the things whether physical or non-physical and I try to take required care. But none of the times, I consider my perception as a fragile thing. Some people are so confident about their perception that they can bet on the stability of their perception. More or less I was also the same but now I am trying to change.
It’s good if I manage to create strong perception about anything and I make my decision based on it. But assuming that my perception is correct and going to remain correct is not always true. I may consider that my perception about particular thing or action or thought is strong and it’s not going to change. I may be true for sometime, I may even be true for my entire life. But as soon as I learn about the other aspect of that thing or action or thought, it doesn’t take long in changing the perception no matter how confident I was about it sometime back.
Sometimes we make bigger mistakes just because of wrong perception. When I say wrong perception, I mean a perception made based of few sides while other sides are unknown. To take an example, let’s consider one story of a movie. In the movie, the actress turns into a bar dancer just to raise the nephew of the actor. Without knowing the cause when actor gets to know about actress profession, he becomes furious. He starts hating the actress the most. He is right because he has a perception about this profession that it’s bad profession. He is also aware of only side of the actress that she is involved in a profession which he considers bad. As story moves, the actor comes to know about the other side of the actress profession. This side is about the cause of the profession. She turned into that profession just to raise an orphan kid and coincidently actor’s nephew. Now the perception of the actor is completely changed about the actress. He thinks that she is a great person who sacrificed her joy of the life for someone else.
I think this is not a very unique story. I can see many similar stories happening all around all the time. This can be seen/read/felt often in case of disputes. Both the sides involved in the dispute are having different perceptions of the same thing/fact/action and hence they took/want to take different actions. Until unless I not learn about all the side of the thing/fact/action; I can not think about right or wrong side. This is not an easy job and that’s why I consider the job of a judge as a highly challenging. They really deserve the honor.
Having seen/known all these stories since so long, it’s surprising that I rarely think about validity of my own perception and probably I give too much weight to my perception at the time. But now I am trying to be a changed man. What I want to do now is to try my best to learn/discover all sides of the fact and then make the perception. It’s really difficult if not impossible to discover all the sides and so the making a correct perception. And hence I want to balance the weight given to my perception while making any decision and leaving a room for some undiscovered sides. If I don’t keep a room, I may end up as a complete looser without any chance to recover. I would try to implement this in my day to day activities and especially in case of relation management.